Unpleasant Surprise

I received an email today from a fellow writer. 

She was upset with me. She said folks were telling her that I attacked her and the things she loves here at my blog. I immediately focused on Principle #2 - Don't take anything personally.

So - I did the logical thing. I did a 'search' for any words that might validate her accusations. No words came up that 'identified' her or what she does or what she writes. I focused on #3 - Don't make assumptions and knew that those who accused me of 'hurting 'her were mistaken.

I make it a point to keep negative thoughts and feelings anonymous. (#1 - Be Impeccable With Your Word) We all have negative feelings. They are a part of life. To put the onus on another though.... If I am feeling negative - "I" am feeling negative. I can't blame anyone else. Shees!

However, if I learn something and really appreciate a workshop or a conference that I go to, I make sure I tout that group. Like SCBWI - I have attended two huge conferences put on by them. They were both great learning experiences. 

You all know, if you've been following my blog, that I do struggle at conferences. Conferences are painful, beautiful experiences, but if I only learn one thing, I am ecstatic! 

I was not trained in taking criticism. That's what happens at conferences (if you put your work in for critiquing) I am learning. I am growing. I'm getting better at it. I'm listening, taking the criticism under advisement, and then doing what I think is right. For me.

The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz continue to inspire me - to help me grow.  http://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally.
3. Don't Make Assumptions.
4. Always Do Your Best.

Life is to be lived.