Monday, May 30, 2011

Unpleasant Surprise

I received an email today from a fellow writer. 

She was upset with me. She said folks were telling her that I attacked her and the things she loves here at my blog. I immediately focused on Principle #2 - Don't take anything personally.

So - I did the logical thing. I did a 'search' for any words that might validate her accusations. No words came up that 'identified' her or what she does or what she writes. I focused on #3 - Don't make assumptions and knew that those who accused me of 'hurting 'her were mistaken.

I make it a point to keep negative thoughts and feelings anonymous. (#1 - Be Impeccable With Your Word) We all have negative feelings. They are a part of life. To put the onus on another though.... If I am feeling negative - "I" am feeling negative. I can't blame anyone else. Shees!

However, if I learn something and really appreciate a workshop or a conference that I go to, I make sure I tout that group. Like SCBWI - I have attended two huge conferences put on by them. They were both great learning experiences. 

You all know, if you've been following my blog, that I do struggle at conferences. Conferences are painful, beautiful experiences, but if I only learn one thing, I am ecstatic! 

I was not trained in taking criticism. That's what happens at conferences (if you put your work in for critiquing) I am learning. I am growing. I'm getting better at it. I'm listening, taking the criticism under advisement, and then doing what I think is right. For me.

The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz continue to inspire me - to help me grow.
  1. Be Impeccable With Your Word.
  2. Don't Take Anything Personally.
  3. Don't Make Assumptions.
  4. Always Do Your Best.
Life is to be lived.


  1. Blogging can be a little hair-raising, can't it, Judy? Thanks for the hug.

    I wrote this to remind people to write only positive stuff about 'named' people/places/things.

    However, if we don't have the freedom to express our own thoughts and feelings, why have so many died for that freedom?